Month: February 2021

14
Feb
2021
Confinement triggered online relationship search

Confinement triggered online relationship search

Technology vs. loneliness

During COVID-19 and quarantine times, confinement showed us how essential it is to satisfy the need to get closer to each other. This, without a doubt, made the use of online dating and relationship apps like Tinder, Badoo or Grindr, among others, rise like a bubble.

Smartme Analytics, a consultancy in Spain, studied more than 8000 people during the state of alarm and published a study where it indicated that the use of Tinder increased by 94.4%, then Badoo with 52% and Grindr with 25% more of connected users looking for encounters.

In these cases, the use of technology is perfectly valid to mitigate the very human desire for contact and company. From our research on the subject, these are some of the reasons why people still don’t get the best out of these dating apps and networks:

  • A limited perception about the virtuality, their importance, or the usefulness of these services, affecting motivation towards their use.
  • Adherence to tradition, by holding a very rigid view of the mechanics of off-screen relationships, and contrast with a virtual relationship.
  • After expressing a lack of ability, in terms of better forms of communication and relationship, when using these technologies, apps and networks. 
  • After having suffered some act of online violence, disagreement or disappointment, users stop using them, and some become detractors of their use.
  • For myths, taboos, or unfortunate opinions about it, in the best style: “people only search for sex through those apps”, or “you only have casual encounters without much relevance”.

Technology brings us closer, knowing how to use it connects us

The good news is that at Mindful-linking we are specialists in showing you that it is possible to create more successful online connections and relationships by making more assertive and intuitive use of these tools.

Write us at [email protected] to design a personalized learning route that helps you project the best of yourself and contact the best of others, to celebrate the magic of the encounter.

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14
Feb
2021
Online aggression

Online aggression

“Why are you taking so long to answer?”

Online assault and violence

When we engage in dialogues under digital environments we find two types of behavior: argumentative verbal behavior and aggressive verbal behavior. The first seeks to attack the interlocutor’s position, his arguments, opinions, and his truth.

On the other hand, aggressive verbal behavior is characterized by a malicious intention to victimize and damage the image of the counterpart, diverting the focus of attention from their position or their ideas.

Below we will describe some of the most frequent displays of hostility while using Social Networks and online socialization apps:

Discrimination

It consists of any type or act of segregation and stigmatization that may be degrading or hurtful against a person’s physical appearance: their age, sex, race, religion, sexual orientation, socioeconomic level, etc.

Example: “Sorry, fat people are disgusting to me”

Value judgements

They are actions caused by intolerance, in which another person is devalued or denigrated through negative judgment calls, in a sarcastic, ironic, vulgar or hurtful way.

Example: “I’m surprised you don’t write with misspellings”

Remember that destructive criticism tells more about the person who criticizes, than about the person object of it.

Generalization

They are all those preconceptions, prejudices and clichés (social, religious or behavioral) that revolve around some topic and that can directly affect the development of the socio-emotional climate of an online conversation and interaction.

Example: “I think that religious people are not legit people“

The truth is that each person is a universe to discover and it is not positive to generalize because it could be offensive.

Excessive demands

It consists of waiting for a certain response, action or behavior from the other person and then reacting violently or aggressively if what is expected is not obtained, since there is a wrong idea about an alleged obligation or a commitment about said response.

If we get a match and you don’t text me, then I’ll delete you!

Excessive demands occur when no clear agreements or limits are previously established between the parties.

If you identified yourself with any of these scenarios, the important thing is to remember that although violence is inevitable, we can always decide whether to react or not, or with whom to follow the conversation, because not all users act in the same way.

The truth is that in addition to creating strategies for the prevention of digital violence, we must strengthen a culture in Digital Citizenship that seeks to educate in values ​​to teach us about how to manage our online connections in a healthy, assertive and non-violent way.

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